2023-10-24
16 分钟A special episode from Matt Abrahams's Think Faster, Talk Smarter audiobook.
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One of the biggest barriers to better communication is that we get in our own way.
I'm Matt Abrahams, and I teach strategic communication at Stanford Graduate School of Business.
Welcome to think fast, talk Smart, the podcast when it comes to communicating well, we need to strive for connection and not perfection.
Here is an excerpt from my new audiobook, think faster, talk smarter, how to speak successfully when you're put on the spot, that provides guidance on how we can all improve and hone our communication by daring to be dull and making missed takes.
Dare to be dull how do we stop from judging ourselves so much?
One big technique that is surprising in its simplicity is that we can give ourselves permission to do what needs to be done.
Nothing more, nothing less.
Rather than striving to do it right, we focus only on relaying the information we have to our audience.
This technique is actually a core tenet in the world of improvisation.
Great improvisers get over the hump of their perfectionist tendencies by telling themselves that good enough is great and that they should dare to be dull.
As they know, the more we can dare to be dull, the greater the chances we'll be anything but dull, because we'll be communicating using our full cognitive resources.
Be obvious is the most powerful creative mantra that there is, improvisation expert Dan Klein told me.
When you're trying to be original, you sound like everyone else trying to be original.
But when you're obvious, you're yourself, and that's what's genuine.