2023-07-25
22 分钟Being a better listener has a lot to do with silence, says Collins Dobbs, a lecturer in management at Stanford Graduate School of Business. “A lot of people are uncomfortable with the smallest modicum of silence, but learning often happens when we create distance for useful reflection.” In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Dobbs talks with host Matt Abrahams about the importance of “space, pace, and grace” when you’re receiving others’ feedback and handling the emotions that come out during tough discussions. “There’s often a lot more focus on the skill set on delivering emotion than receiving emotion, but if the receiver of emotion can put themselves in a place of curiosity, agency, and openness … it opens up a whole new world of possibilities.” Dobbs is an executive coach and teaches several courses, including Interpersonal Dynamics and Leadership Labs. For a full transcript of the interview, visit this episode's web page. Think Fast, Talk Smart is a podcast produced by Stanford Graduate School of Business. Each episode provides concrete, easy-to-implement tools and techniques to help you hone and enhance your communication skills. More Resources Building Successful Relationships: How to Effectively Communicate in Your Professional and Personal Life How to Build Better Relationships See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Hi Matt here.
Ive recently found myself at home and at work in some pretty interesting coaching situations and I remembered a conversation I had on this podcast with my friend and colleague Collins Dobbs where he gave really practical and tactical advice for giving constructive feedback as a coach and as a mentor.
I really liked his notion of connect then coach, as well as the idea of pace, space and grace.
Enjoy this conversation from our archive one.
Thing all managers, parents and romantic partners know is that things don't always go the way we want them to, which means we sometimes have to have challenging conversations with our employees, our children, and our partners.
While never fun, these tough talks can be made easier and more effective.
Hello, I'm Matt Abrahams and I teach strategic communication at stakeholders.
Stanford Graduate School of Business welcome to think fast, talk Smart, the podcast.
I am super excited to chat with Collins Dobbs.
Collins is a lecturer in management and executive coach at Stanford Graduate School of Business.
He teaches in several MBA courses, including interpersonal dynamics and leadership labs.
Among many things, Collins focuses on diverse leadership styles and cultures and how they impact interpersonal relationships and management effectiveness.
Welcome Collins.
Thank you for being here.