2024-05-13
36 分钟Ted audio collective, you're listening to how to be a better human.
I'm your host, Chris Duffy.
Someone once told me that anytime someone gives you advice, they're really just saying the things that they themselves need to hear.
And I know that that is definitely true.
When I give advice, 30 seconds in, I hear myself saying things like, you're going to give a great podcast introduction.
Just believe in yourself and don't overthink it.
And then the other person who I'm talking to is like, um, I actually was asking for advice about how to bake bread.
So my point being, it's hard to give good advice.
It's hard to not make it about you.
I am of the opinion that most times, the best thing you can do to help another person is just listen to them.
But every once in a while, a solid piece of advice can lead to a breakthrough.
It can make us feel less alone, and it can be really fun to witness.
Today's guest, John Paul Bramer, is an expert on giving advice that is actually helpful, actually useful, and so much fun to listen to.
So much fun that strangers, myself included, have been hanging on his every word for years.
John Paul is the author of Hola, how to come out in a Walmart parking lot and other life lessons.
And as a longtime advice columnist, he is here to teach us his craft.
Here's a clip.
I mean, I give the normal advice that, you know, a good buddy would give when someone's feeling down or like having issues in their relationship.
But most advice at its bare bones comes down to just communicate more with each other.
It's often just someone being like, oh, I'm worried that my partner thinks this, what should I do?