2024-02-26
32 分钟Romantic love isn’t all it’s cracked up to be – at least that’s one way positive psychologist Barbara Fredrickson puts it. Barbara’s decades of research suggest that emotions outside of our narrow definition of love are just as important to our well-being. In this episode, Barbara shares what to look for when we want to broaden our experience of positive emotions, and suggests ways to build the consistent connection and care at the heart of our best relationships. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts
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I love traditions.
I love a ritual.
I love a routine.
I love a repeated action that I can count on.
Some of my attempts at creating those traditions, though, have been complete busts.
For example, every year on December 12, when the date is 1212, I try to create a holiday where you say everything twice, wear two items of each item of clothing, and generally just try and do everything double.
I call it one two day.
And I have to say, this is without a doubt my wife's least favorite.
Day of the year.
Every year she sees me walk into the kitchen wearing two hats, two pairs of sunglasses, and drinking from two glasses of water simultaneously.
And every year she goes, oh, God, not this again.
So look, not every tradition is successful.
Not every tradition is going to get buy in from the other people who.
Would have to participate in it.
But the beautiful part when a tradition does work is that it's a way for you and the people around you to build memories and to deepen your connection to each other.
Today's guest, doctor Barbara Fredrickson, is an expert in positive psychology, and she's changed the way that I think about love and friendship and how recognizing positive emotions helps cultivate those connections much more deeply.
Barbara looks at what really creates those bonds between us, and her research has found that a single, big, dramatic day, a one two day, if you will, might actually be far, far less important than the collection of tiny moments that we experience together along the way.