The science of happiness (w/ Laurie Santos)

幸福的科学(劳丽·桑托斯)

How to Be a Better Human

自我完善

2023-01-23

35 分钟
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The phrase “comparison is the thief of joy” might be the kind of cliche that makes you roll your eyes – and yet, it’s an idea that is, scientifically, pretty accurate. In today’s episode, psychologist Laurie Santos – a Yale professor and host of “The Happiness Lab” podcast – discusses some of the surprising evidence behind what does and doesn’t make us humans happy. Laurie also shares strategies on how to improve our well-being, discusses the irony behind “self-care”, and explains why happiness is often a journey not just within, but beyond, ourselves. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts

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  • Ted audio collective.

  • You'Re listening to how to be a better human.

  • I am your host, Chris Duffy.

  • Here's a strange thing that I have noticed about my own brain.

  • Often the times that I feel the happiest are where I have a lot of irons in the fire.

  • There's all these possibilities, and there's this sense that exciting things might happen.

  • But the thing that's weird is that I often feel happier in that moment where the irons are in the fire than when they actually come out and become a real thing.

  • Right?

  • Like, even if I have accomplished something that feels really big and special, like we finished recording a season of this show, or I did a big live show, and it went well.

  • I crash so hard that night or the next day, as soon as I've done the thing that I thought that I really wanted to do, it's like I have a happiness hangover.

  • I'm confused, to be honest, about why it is that accomplishing the things that I thought I wanted to accomplish often dont make me feel very happy at all.

  • In my experience, happiness is kind of a slippery fish.

  • When I try my hardest to grab ahold of happiness, it just flops out of my fingers and slides away.

  • But when I ignore the fish and I focus on other things, sometimes out of the corner of my eye, I see that, hey, that happiness fish is swimming right around next to me all over again.

  • Our guest today is Lori Santos.

  • Lori started the Happiness Lab podcast to help people understand how science could help them lead more satisfying lives.

  • And I promise you, I swear, Lori is going to use zero fish based metaphors to do that.

  • Lori's podcast grew out of her work teaching at Yale, where she started a course called psychology and the good life.

  • It's also known as the Happiness course.

  • Since then, Lori has taken the happiness course online at Coursera, where thousands of people enrolled in the program.