2023-01-02
37 分钟Why do so many of us wait until a new calendar year to start setting our goals? For today’s guest, Gretchen Rubin, “there really is no magic to January 1st”-- and the best time to start a healthy habit is just, well, “now.” Gretchen is a podcaster and the author of several New York Times bestsellers, including “Better Than Before: What I Learned About Making and Breaking Habits--to Sleep More, Quit Sugar, Procrastinate Less, and Generally Build a Happier Life.” In this episode, she shares eye-opening frameworks on the different ways to make and achieve goals, gives tips on how to create habits that actually improve our lives and discusses why chasing happiness isn’t always fun – and why it doesn’t always make us feel happy. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts
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Welcome back to how to be a better human.
I am your host, Chris Duffy, and I am so happy to be back with our first episode of season three.
I know that I speak for everyone on the show when I say that we are so honored to be starting this new year here with you.
And I'll also be honest and say that starting a new year can be kind of fraught.
Right?
A lot of people talk about new year, new you.
But at least for me, I have spent many a January 2 being like, oh, God, it is a new year, and I am still the same old me.
How is that even possible?
Right?
I feel this pressure, like I'm supposed to be flexing my six pack while meditating and speaking fluent Spanish already.
Like, how did I already fall so far behind in the new year?
I think that's because there's a lot of pressure around transformation in a new year, and some of that can be good.
I think it's good to have a kick in the butt, to lose some bad habits and start some new good ones, to be reflective about what's working and what's not working in your life, and to try and think strategically about how you can get yourself closer to what makes you happy.
All that is really good.
But there's a lot of really tough, challenging, negative pressure as well, to not make any mistakes.
And there's all this judgment around where you're at.
And when I think about a person who manages to walk the fine line of capturing the really good parts of resolutions and habit change while avoiding the pitfalls of judgment and toxic positivity, today's guest, Gretchen Rubin, is at the very top of my list.
She's the best selling author of the Happiness Project, the four tendencies and outer order inner calm, in addition to many other books.
And here's what Gretchen has to say about this time of year.