2021-06-22
33 分钟If you choose to be in a relationship —long or short term— how do you go about picking the right person to spend your time with? And once you are in that relationship, how can you be a good partner? Can you avoid it ending badly? George Blair-West is a relationship expert, researcher, and doctor specializing in psychiatry with a private practice in Brisbane, Australia. He co-authored the book "How to make the biggest decision of your life: Unlocking the secrets to a healthy lasting relationship” (Hachette Australia, 2021) with his daughter, a millennial dating coach. Today, he shares what he’s learned in his 25 years as a relationship therapist, debunks myths about love (is there such a thing as “The One”?), and suggests practices that can help build long-lasting relationships. In 2021, George and his wife celebrated 33 years of marriage.
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I'm your host, Chris Duffy.
If you choose to partner up, one of the most important decisions of your life is who you're going to partner with.
How do you pick who you're going to spend your life with?
What is the right selection process for a decision that enormous?
Not to mention you gotta pick someone who also picks you.
And then even once youve found a person, youre nowhere near close to done.
I mean, how do you be a good partner?
How do you avoid divorce?
And is there really just one perfect soulmate out there for each of us?
As you can tell, I have a lot of questions.
You probably do, too.
And luckily, todays guest, George Blair west, has some answers.
He is a relationship expert, and here is a clip from one of his talks.
Almost 50 years ago, psychiatrists Richard Ray and Thomas Holmes developed an inventory of the most distressing human experiences that we could have.
Number one on the list, death of a spouse.
Number two, divorce.
Three, marital separation.
Now, generally, but not always, for those three to occur, we need what comes in number seven of the list, which is marriage.
Fourth on the list is imprisonment in an institution.