2021-03-16
33 分钟Sex is such a big part of being human. It's how our species persists, but it's also so much more than that. So why do we feel so uncomfortable talking about it? Emily Nagoski is a sex educator who argues that learning how to talk openly about sex — and unlearning some damaging misconceptions— can give you access to a more authentic and fulfilling sex life. She has a Ph.D. in health behavior, clinical internship experience at the Kinsey Institue, and is the author of the best-selling book “Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life.” To learn more about "How to Be a Better Human," host Chris Duffy, or find footnotes and additional resources, please visit: go.ted.com/betterhuman
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I'm your host, Chris Duffy, and this is how to be a better human.
Today's episode is about sex, which I am not afraid to admit is slightly uncomfortable for me to talk about.
You can't see this, but I am already blushing, and I probably won't stop blushing until the end of this episode.
Despite that, I do have quite a bit of experience in talking about this because when I taught fifth grade, one of the strange de facto jobs that I also got thrown into was teaching health class.
And health class was supposed to just be like, deodorant, it's a thing, you need to wear some.
And hair, it's a thing, you're probably gonna grow some.
But of course, because we had anonymous question cards, it ended up being a lot more about sex and sexuality.
Every year that I taught it, I would get some version of a question saying, how do you know what day puberty is going to happen?
I love kind of that idea that it happens all at once overnight, that you, like, go to sleep as a boy and wake up and are like, I'm a man.
Here's my beard.
Of course, that's not how it happens.
I also got questions like, is it normal to get a boner during math class?
Which made me think that maybe I was doing too good a job of explaining long division.
And one particularly memorable question asked me if it was true that there were three types of breasts, female breasts, man boobs, and chicken breasts, which I had never thought about that way.
But there are at least three kinds of breasts now.
Youve convinced me.
One question that I really did not have an answer to, and I still dont, is why does it sometimes feel so awkward to talk about sex?
Sex is such a big part of being human.
Its how our species persists, but its also so much more than that.