Denny Agassi moved to New York City with a mission: She was looking to have great sex. Her first summer in the city, Denny downloaded the dating app Grindr. She filtered for trans friendly men looking for sex or short flings — and it worked. Then, one day, she got a message from a man named Jack. He was poised, curious and caring. What she thought could only be something casual — a Grindr relationship — turned into something serious and meaningful. Denny’s guard began to fall. But, just as she began to let Jack in, he was gone. This is the final episode of our season! We’ll be back with new episodes in late May. Plus, a call out to listeners: When did you realize your parents were really divorced? Tell us your story here: nytimes.com/divorcedparents.
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From The New York Times, I'm Anna Martin.
This is Modern Love.
When I was dating,
I felt like people were always telling me to have fun.
And, frankly, that ticked me off
because I was like, this is not fun at all.
I'm constantly confused, wondering if the person likes me,
not sure if we want the same thing, terrified they're ghosting me.
Like, what is fun about that?
Today's essay is by Denny Agassi.
Denny managed to do what I never could.
She was actually having fun dating.
She was on the apps, hooking up with guys,
and genuinely having a good time,
until she met this one guy who made her want more.
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Denny, welcome to Modern Love.
Denny Agassi: Hello, hello.
Anna Martin: I heard you just celebrated a birthday.