What is up daddy Gang?
It is your founding father Alex Cooper with call her daddy.
Doctor Jenny Tate's welcome to call her daddy.
Thank you Alex, I'm so excited to talk to you in the daddy gang.
I am so happy to have you.
So daddy Gang, Doctor Tate is a clinical psychologist and author of the book how to be single and happy.
I love when psychologists write on topics that they are experts on and also have personal experience with.
So do you mind sharing?
Why did you write this book Alex?
There's several reasons that I wrote this book.
You know, I was starting to see this pattern in my practice where so many people were coming to me from, you know, all ages, both men and women, that were saying this is my first time in therapy.
I feel fine in my life, except dating feels like the one thing that is not going as planned.
And I thought I had a decent sense of self worth, but it is totally taken a turn and I'm really struggling with how constant rejection is making me feel.
And this was kind of coming up at the same time that dating apps were increasingly popular and so just the vast number of dates people were going on had totally multiplied and the manners had totally descended and I also really got it.
So I was really fascinated.
I'm always interested in helping my clients, but I also really empathize personally because my parents got divorced when I was young and my mom was divorced twice by the time I was like twelve and I really wanted a relationship.
And my mindset was that relationships were really hard to come by.
Good relationships were hard to come by.
Anyone could have a bad or terrible one, but a really rewarding one that brought you up was it was a challenge to find.
How did your desire to be in a relationship lead you to being engaged to the wrong person?