2024-09-26
20 分钟Gain control over your speaking and excel in your communication. For the first anniversary of his book Think Faster, Talk Smarter, Matt Abrahams shares strategies from the first chapter, focusing on managing speaking anxiety and improving spontaneous communication. Through personal anecdotes and practical techniques, he explains how to handle unexpected questions, reframe anxiety as excitement, and use mindfulness and breathing exercises to stay calm under pressure. The episode also offers tips for managing physical symptoms of anxiety and staying mentally focused during high-stakes situations Reference Links: Link to buy book in your country: Think Faster, Talk Smarter Ep.48 Speaking Up Without Freaking Out: How to Tackle Communication Anxiety Connect: Email Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.ioEpisode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart WebsiteNewsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.ioThink Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn, Instagram, YouTubeMatt Abrahams >>> LinkedInChapters: (00:00:00) IntroductionHost Matt Abrahams introduces guestJen Psaki, a political analyst and former White House official. (00:01:07) Principles of CommunicationThe importance of doing your homework and active listening. (00:02:08) Skills for Effective ListeningTechniques for focusing and improving listening skills in communication. (00:02:51) Engagement and Lowering Barriers Strategies for making communication more engaging and accessible. (00:03:50) Tailoring Communication Importance of audience understanding and adjusting communication style. (00:05:14) Preparation and Practice for Confidence The role of preparation and continuous practice to build confidence. (00:07:07) The Value of Feedback Seeking feedback and reflecting on communication performances. (00:10:10) Handling Difficult QuestionsTips for managing tough questions and controlling the narrative. (00:12:38) High-Stakes Negotiation Lessons from diplomatic negotiations and finding common ground. (00:15:30) The Final Three Questions Jen shares a question that Matt should have asked, a communicator she admires, and her ingredients for successful communication. (00:19:48) Conclusion Audio excerpt courtesy of Simon & Schuster Audio from THINK FASTER, TALK SMARTER by Matt Abrahams, read by the author. Copyright 2023 by Matthew Abrahams LLC. Used with permission of Simon & Schuster, Inc. (00:00) - Introduction (01:20) - The Onion Interview (03:02) - Speaking Up Without Freaking Out (05:30) - The ABCs of Speaking Anxiety (06:44) - Mindfulness Matters (09:02) - Reframe Anxiety as Excitement (10:26) - Cooling Down and Managing Physical Symptoms (14:15) - Taming Negative Thoughts (15:26) - The Power of Repetition (16:04) - Preparing Questions (18:29) - Rationalizing the Odds (19:32) - Conclusion
Hi Matt here.
I'm super excited for our October think fast, talk smart interviews.
We're going to start early with a bonus episode based on my think faster, talk smarter book, discussing how to be a more confident communicator.
Next, the stars come out.
We'll have Maggie Baird, an actress, activist, and mother of Billie Eilish and Phineas, talking about how to advocate for change within an industry and the broader world.
We'll also have award winning actor and writer Alan Alda speaking on how to make communication clear and vivid.
You can learn more at our newly revamped website, fastersmarter IO.
As always, thank you for listening.
Most people get nervous in high stakes communication situations.
In fact, speaking in front of others is continually ranked as one of the top fears people have to celebrate the anniversary of the release of my book, think faster, talk smarter, I'd like to share a portion of the first chapter that provides specific guidance on how we can all become more confident and comfortable when we communicate.
Chapter one calm, tame the anxiety beast.
With a bit of effort, we can manage our spontaneous speaking anxiety so that it doesn't manage us.
Peeling onions almost always makes me cry, but there was a time long ago when an onion caused a very different emotional response, sheer panic.
I was interviewing for a job as employee number 99 at an up and coming software company.
I made it through several rounds, and the last step was to sit for an interview with the CEO, who prided himself on personally meeting everyone before they were hired.
When I arrived at the appointed time, I found the big boss already waiting for me.
That threw me a little in my experience, senior executives were so busy that they usually arrived late.
But I was about to field another, more substantive curveball.
Just a minute or two into our conversation, the CEO posed a question I never could have anticipated.
It turned out he was famous for asking open ended questions to test how people would respond under pressure.