How To Be Less Judgy

如何减少评判

How To!

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2024-10-15

43 分钟
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Erica judges other people by default. Whether they are acquaintances, co-workers, or new arrivals in a club, her first impression is often negative. “I would like to learn how to quash that part of myself,” she says, because those judgments might be ruling out potential friendships. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Dr. Terri Apter, psychologist and author of Passing Judgment: The Power of Praise & Blame in Everyday Life. Terri explains that Erica’s initial reactions are more useful than she thinks—and can help her better understand herself.  If you liked this episode check out: How To Say What You’re Thinking Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen. How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea. Want more How To!? Subscribe to Slate Plus to unlock exclusive bonus episodes. Plus, you’ll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Visit slate.com/howtoplus to get access wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  • I wanted to learn how to be less judgmental.

  • I realized this has likely gotten in the way of me forming deeper and better relationship and I would like to learn how to quiet that part of myself.

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  • Welcome to how to the show where listeners call us with our toughest questions and we find the perfect person to give them guidance.

  • I'm Courtney Martin.

  • From a young age, we're taught that being judgmental is an undesirable trait, a flaw.

  • It's associated with being mean.

  • If you're on the receiving end of a cutting remark or a sneering glance, it can be devastating.