Look, it was just a joke, okay?
Don't take it so personally.
Don't be so sensitive.
Little comments like these slowly tear down your self esteem and on top of that, they're frustrating.
So today we're going to talk about how to handle them.
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So these are what I call dismissive comments in that they are dismissing your feelings, trying to dismiss any consequence of what they said.
And in many ways, I want you to see these comments as them trying to control the eventual outcome.
Imagine somebody, imagine me just punching you in the arm and you go, ow.
I go, that didn't hurt.
You ever had that happen?
Maybe as a kid growing up or you have a sibling?
I know I'm the oldest of four and that definitely happened.
When you're roughhousing, you're wrestling, you do something that didn't hurt, and they go, what do you mean that didn't hurt?
So I want you to imagine that in your mind that somebody's hit you in the arm and then they tell you that didn't hurt.
As if they get to decide that, yeah, I hit you in the arm, but it didn't hurt.
So no, no harm, no foul, right?