What to Say to a One-Upper

对 One-Upper 说些什么

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

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2024-12-03

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You’re excited to share something you’re proud of, and then someone jumps in with, “Oh, that’s nothing—I’ve done [insert bigger, better thing here].” It’s like they can’t help but make it a competition. Every win you share becomes their chance to one-up you. At first, it’s just annoying. But over time, it starts to wear on you. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 simple strategies to deal with one-uppers. You’ll learn how to protect your peace, set boundaries, and stop letting these moments steal your joy. If you found this helpful, be sure to subscribe and leave a 5-star review :) This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Visit cozyearth.com/jefferson and use my exclusive 40% off code JEFFERSON to give the gift of luxury this holiday season. If you get a post purchase survey, say that you heard about Cozy Earth from The Jefferson Fisher Podcast! Pre-order my new book, The Next Conversation, today!  Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show!  Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter.  Watch my podcast on YouTube  Follow me on Instagram  Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  • So you decide to share a story and after it's over, your friend turns to you and says, oh, that's nothing, I got one even better this one time.

  • And there they go.

  • You've just been one upped.

  • What do you do in that situation and how should you handle it?

  • That's what we're going to be talking about on today's episode.

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  • Now, in case you aren't familiar with the term, you're certainly familiar with what it feels like.

  • One upping is where you say something and somebody else has to make what they say sound bigger, better and more impressive.

  • To where?

  • If you were to tell me, hey, I just ran a 5K, I go, oh, that's awesome.

  • You know, last year when I was running this marathon, you know, I had.

  • Or if you say, hey, I just got a promotion, I go, oh, that's, that's wonderful.

  • I remember when I got my promotion, they gave me this really great corner suite.

  • It's always having to make yourself feel like you are the more the superior person, the bigger, the better everything to where it shifts focus away from the original speaker to funnel it back towards ourselves and that, and that's what happens.

  • It happens to us, it happens to other people.

  • It's a very natural thing to do.

  • So I don't want you to feel like it's only one person does this.