The essence of who we are radiates when we live in our purpose. When we can connect with our true self and share it with others. There are many blockers stopping us from being able to express our feelings, or even know what we’re experiencing, and one of them is self abandonment. Don’t let the “self” fool you — sometimes, we unintentionally abandon ourselves because of the survival responses born as a result of trauma. Until healing begins, we can get stuck living through learned patterns of ignoring our own needs in favor of others around us, suppressing feelings to protect ourselves from the neglect of others, and rejecting our intuition. Trauma Rewired host, Jennifer, and Elisabeth Kristof of Brain-Based Wellness are finishing the CPTSD series by discussing this final component of CPTSD: self abandonment. They talk about the ways we abandon ourselves through the lens of their own experiences, and how it manifests in a cycle of self-abuse and shame. If you find yourself disregarding your own health and happiness, tune in to understand this component of CPTSD and how healing is possible! Topics discussed in this episode: Jennifer shares a recent story of self abandonment Elisabeth defints self abandonment Dissociation as a survival response The effects of parentification Healing self abandonment How all the components of CPTSD work together Becoming an expert of your nervous system Toxic stress and disease Learning to say “no” and self-regulate The power of self-expression Join the live-recording Q&A episode AND the new Facebook group! Contact us about private Rewire Neuro-Somatic Coaching: https://brainbased-wellness.com/rewire-private-neuro-somatic-coaching/ Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program and sign up for the spring cohort now! https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer on the Brain Based Membership site: https://www.rewiretrial.com Connect with us on social media: @trauma.rewired Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846 FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.com Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If someone’s life is in danger, immediately call 911. We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don’t warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It’s very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren’t responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast. We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don’t verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wi
Have you ever gone against your instincts, not trusted yourself?
Engaged in people pleasing, hid parts of yourself, found yourself in perfectionism?
Or not expressing your feelings overall, not acting in alignment with your values, downplaying your needs?
These are all ways that we can self abandon.
And we're going to dive into all of this as we tackle the final distinguishing characteristics of cpts.
Self abandonment.
This is going to be a big one.
Welcome to Trauma Rewired.
I'm your co host, Jennifer Wallace, a neurosomatic psychedelic preparation and integration guide.
And I'm also on the NSI education team.
And I'm Elizabeth Christophe, your co host and founder of Brainbased.com, an online membership where we use applied neurology, somatic practices, and neurosomatic meditations to re pattern trauma to change behavior, to improve capacity and resilience.
And I'm also the founder of the Neurosematic Intelligence coaching certification.
So, self abandonment, here we go.
I think for me, self abandonment is like the mother wound of these five distinguishing characteristics.
I mean, they're all so important and have such a big impact on our health.
But I think that that disconnect from ourselves, that fragmentation is just a huge part of everything that drives a lot of the other outputs that we experience with cpts.
And like all the other chronic outputs of cpts that we have discussed, this really comes on a spectrum, right?
It could look like putting other people's needs or opinions before your own, ignoring your own inner thoughts, your feelings about something, ignoring your instincts, downplaying your emotional experience.
So it can be these little ways that we abandon ourselves in everyday life.
And it can be more severe, too.