2024-12-11
33 分钟Fake profiles. Unresponsive texters. Boring conversations. An endless stream of dudes on boats holding the fish they’ve caught. Talk to single people using dating apps, and they are likely to tell you that the experience is awful, but that they have to be there. Dating apps are just how singles meet one another these days. But what if artificial intelligence could fix modern dating? The Times reporter Eli Tan explored that hypothesis. Eli joined several new dating apps that seek to duplicate a user’s personality via chatbot and let the A.I. clone do the dating. He also received flirting advice from a squadron of A.I. dating coaches. He used that advice on real dates, actually trying to find a connection, to see how the A.I.’s guidance held up. On this episode of Modern Love, Eli tells us what happened when he revealed his use of A.I. to his dates, and whether the technology may actually push us toward more authentic interactions on the apps. How to submit a Modern Love Essay to The New York Times How to submit a Tiny Love Story
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From the New York Times, I'm Anna Martin.
This is modern love.
Are you ready to go?
I'm ready to go.
Let's do it.
Today I'm talking to my colleague, Eli Tan.
Thanks for having me on.
Eli is a reporter at the Times.
He's 26.
He lives in San Fr.
And he's single.
That means Eli, like nearly every other single person I know is on the dating apps.
And also, just like every other single person I know, Eli thinks the dating apps are awful.
He told me every conversation he has feels exactly the same, honestly.
Feels like kind of this liminal interaction that you can have, you know, a dozen times a day where it's always, you know, the same type of thing, and no one ever remembers the conversation they have with someone on a dating app, even when they.
You never continue that in the real world.
It's kind of this weird, like, performative interaction that you do just to get to the next step.
Do you feel sort of trapped by these apps?
Like, do you feel like it's the only way that you can meet people?