Real Repair: What Happens After a Big Fight

真正的修复:一场大战后会发生什么

Master Your Marriage

情感与人际关系

2024-12-19

37 分钟

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In this powerful and vulnerable episode, Robert and Sharla demonstrate how to process a regrettable incident—a big fight or emotional injury that still holds an emotional charge. Over the past three episodes, they’ve explored the ideal steps to repair conflict in the moment - which is ideally the goal. But what happens when repair doesn’t happen early or often? How do couples handle the aftermath of a major fight? Using the Gottman Institute’s Regrettable Incident Formula, Robert and Sharla work through a recent unresolved conflict live on the podcast. This unscripted conversation offers a real-life example of how to move past defensiveness, build understanding, and create a stronger connection. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: - The 6-Step Process for processing a regrettable incident: 1. Agreements: Setting ground rules to create safety and openness. 2. Feelings: Sharing emotions experienced during the conflict without defensiveness. 3. Realities: Taking turns describing perspectives and validating each other’s experiences. 4. Triggers: Identifying personal triggers and past experiences that may have intensified the conflict. 5. Responsibility: Acknowledging each partner’s role in what happened. 6. Constructive Plans: Collaborating on practical ways to handle future conflicts more effectively. - Why processing past incidents is about achieving understanding, not rehashing or assigning blame. - The importance of waiting until both partners are calm and emotionally ready to process. - How the cycle of harmony, disharmony, and repair builds trust, compassion, and deeper love in relationships. Key Takeaways: - Processing a regrettable incident requires emotional distance and a willingness to engage constructively. - The goal is mutual understanding, not reliving the argument or trying to “win.” - Taking responsibility and creating actionable solutions is essential for true repair. - The most important relational skills—trust, empathy, and love—are built during repair, not during harmony. Why This Episode Matters: Conflict is inevitable in every relationship. Thriving relationships aren’t defined by an absence of conflict but by the ability to repair and grow stronger after moments of disharmony. This episode offers tools to help couples navigate the aftermath of major fights with vulnerability and intentionality. Resources Mentioned: - The Gottman Institute’s Regrettable Incident Formula - Episodes 1-3 in this series: - The Rhythm of Relationships - How to Speak for Repair - How to Listen for Repair Next Steps: For more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you. 💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

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