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Hey everybody, it's Marielle.
I have certain friends who I always feel better after talking to.
They bring this combination of warmth and support and a lack of judgment.
It always feels like they're listening, actually tuned in and interested for you.
That person is a super communicator, and you're probably a super communicator.
Back to them Charles Duhigg is a Pulitzer Prize winning reporter.
In his book, Super Communicators is a guide to how to connect through Conversation, he says there are some people who do this consistently and he's been watching them.
And what we've learned is that it's not an inborn trait.
It's not that introverts can do it better than extroverts or vice versa.
Rather, there are some people who have just paid a little bit more attention to how they communicate with other people and how others communicate with them.
And he says these people, these super communicators, tend to build and maintain genuine connections which can lead to happier, full, fuller lives.
It starts with authentic conversation, listening to.
Their own instincts and saying the goal of this discussion ought to be not to impress you, not to make you think I'm smart, not to convince you that I'm right.
The goal of this conversation should be to understand you.
And if you know that I want to understand you, you're going to want to understand me.
And that is actually the most magical thing that can happen.