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the questions started right after Tobin
and his husband moved to the Bay Area and got a house together.
Tobin's family was pretty excited about this.
They all lived within an hour, and they brought meals over for weeks.
His mom bought them shades.
But this question popped up, and the.
First time I noticed it happening, it was with my aunt.
Kind of out of nowhere, she was like, oh, which one of you is handy?
Is one of you handy?
And I was just like, why does she want to know that?
Like, why does she care?
Yeah, yeah.
And I had, like, feelings about it, and I couldn't tell why.
And then it just kind of kept happening with other family members.
Like, they would be talking about, like, oh, you guys moved in together into this house.
Which one of you is handy?
And on its face, it was kind of like, oh, we know when you're in a house,