2020-06-25
29 分钟In this week’s essay, Lilian Oben writes about how essential it is to be seen in relationships — to be able to take up space, without being asked to change who we are. Her essay is read by Zawe Ashton ("Betrayal").
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From the New York Times and WBUR Boston this is Modern Love
Stories of love loss and redemption
I'm your host Magna Chakrabarti
In this week's essay
Lillian Oban writes about how essential it is to be seen in relationships without being asked to change who we are
Her piece is read by Zawe Ashton
Zawe recently starred in Betrayal on Broadway and in the film Velvet Buzzsaw
Even before he spoke I knew
A woman I would meet years later described the sensation as "feeling it in the skin"
I felt the words he was about to say in my skin
In his "I can't do this anymore"
I heard what he was really saying
Something flashed red before my eyes
I was shaking holding the phone to one ear screaming
but unable to speak
I thought maybe the worst was over but he went on to state the obvious
That I was black and not Jewish
He explained that he was not ready to handle the complexities of an interracial relationship in a country like this
As if it were the 1960s and we were Richard and Mildred Loving