The Speaking Coach: The One Word All Liars Use! Stop Saying This Word, It's Making You Sound Weak! The More You Do This, The More You Sound Like A Liar!

说话教练:所有骗子都用的那个词!停止说这个词,它让你听起来很弱!你越这么做,就越像骗子!

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

社会与文化

2025-03-17

2 小时 17 分钟
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How do you communicate like a top lawyer and command respect? Jefferson Fisher reveals the courtroom-tested tricks that win cases AND everyday conversations  Jefferson Fisher is a trial lawyer, communication expert, and host of ‘The Jefferson Fisher Podcast’, where he teaches how to communicate with confidence. He is also the bestselling author of the upcoming book, ‘The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More’.  In this conversation, Jefferson and Steven discuss topics such as, how to make people agree with you instantly, the body language tricks that make you sound powerful, the habits that make you sound like a liar, and how to stop people from walking all over you.  00:00 Intro 02:17 Who Is Jefferson Fisher and What Is His Mission? 02:41 What Is a Trial Attorney? 03:24 My Job Is Convincing People to Believe Me 03:54 Where Jefferson Learned His Skills 04:57 Why Communication Matters 06:48 The Importance of Being a 10/10 Communicator 08:06 Negative Feelings From Poor Communication 09:00 Why Do People Listen to Jefferson? Why Do They Come to Him? 10:01 First Impressions vs. the Next Conversations 11:32 The Pause and Breathing Technique (Actionable) 17:18 Making Others Trust You 22:45 How Insecurities Affect Your Communication 24:24 How to Say Anything With Confidence 28:54 Why You Need to Say Fewer Words 33:00 Having an Assertive Voice 35:50 What Do the Most Successful People Have in Common? 37:19 Say Things to Connect 40:01 Should Our Aim Be to Win the Argument? 42:30 Why Winning the Argument Can Feel Bitter-Sweet 45:31 How to Have an Effective Conversation 52:23 How the Past and Your Identity Can Trigger You 58:50 What to Do When You're Disrespected 1:07:11 Why People Are Rude to You 1:14:50 How to Prepare for Any Difficult Conversation 1:17:28 Pause for a Second When You're Being Disrespected 1:25:50 Ads 1:26:49 The Importance of Body Language 1:30:18 Famous Cases Supporting This Body Language Principle 1:35:54 The Counterintuitive Technique to Win in Life 1:41:04 Become a Master of Small Talk 1:44:39 What I Learned From Abraham Lincoln 1:47:25 You Control the Power of the Tongue 1:49:13 How to Implement All the Tricks and Advice Into Your Life 1:51:09 Ads 1:53:19 How to Say No 2:02:23 Filler Words 2:07:02 What You Say to Your Kid Will Have a Huge Impact 2:10:07 What Would You Tell Your Younger Self? Follow Jefferson:  Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/Uh6ulIkkJRb  YouTube - https://g2ul0.app.link/c9fYOfmkJRb  You can pre-order Jefferson’s book, ‘The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/xO1NLrikJRb  Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes  My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook  You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb  Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Sponsors: Linkedin Ads - https://www.linkedin.com/DIARY Vivobarefoot - https://vivobarefoot.com/DOAC with code DOAC20 for 20% off Perfect Ted - https://www.perfectted.com with code DIARY40 for 40% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  • When somebody is belittling you or being rude or being disrespectful,

  • what we typically want to do is throw it right back, because now we gotta win.

  • Instead of that, here's what I would want you to do.

  • One, you're gonna have five to seven seconds of silence.

  • Two, you're gonna ask them to say it again.

  • Because a lot of time in arguments, people take it back.

  • And three, this is where it gets fun.

  • I want you to say that's where your real power is.

  • Because it shows that you're the one in control and they're the ones that are not.

  • I'm Jefferson Fisher.

  • I'm a board certified trial attorney and I help people resolve conflict, resolve problems.

  • And I can change two words and change your life just by what you decide to say next.

  • Because what you say truly has the power to change everything.

  • For example, I teach that you never want to win an argument.

  • When you look to win an argument, you will often lose the relationship.

  • That's your prize.

  • Congrats.

  • So instead of seeing arguments as something to win, see them as something to unravel.

  • And if you can, just ask them the question, what am I missing?

  • I promise you that is the most effective tool that you can use for a difficult conversation.