i can't believe you're trying to out do compassion out compassion i'm not trying to out compassion i'm just saying therapy is another thing i've nailed in my life so nobody can tell me nobody should tell me to ever get therapy ever again
because one i've gotten it two i'm already already improving okay so stop with your naysayers oh many to get therapy guess what woman i've gotten and i've nailed it oh my next achievement please welcome to rise to meet you a comedy podcast where two comedian friends try to be funny i'm your host nigel uh and i'm your host eval and walk yes we are back all right all right i like being close to the soundboard now nigel okay fine you can press it oh my god you're killing me woman okay listen this is not what the listener signed up for just you play on the soundboard okay they're soon to sign up for like our nice honest funny conversations what is our nice honest funny conversation well everybody was very happy
that i'm good at therapy oh my god yes all right enough we got it we got it people love the fact that you're going to therapy it took two years for you to start therapy and then for me to go to the gym i know and uh i'm very happy i did it you know and i just realized therapy is another thing that i've nailed in my life what are you my my therapist thinks i'm really good i my therapist thinks i'm great nigel
if you were trying to parody yourself you would like this is this is like this is exactly how i think people would expect you to react to yourself in therapy well yeah i mean this is not just me saying it my therapist kind of said it i was really between the she didn't say nigel i think you're great but she read between the lines and i read between the lines well i'll tell you what happened okay you can be the judge of whether or not my reading between the lines is delusional okay so
as we discussed last week one of the things i want to work on is compassion for other people right so my therapist would ask i'll give her a situation my therapist asks questions about a situation and then after answer those questions she says oh naturally you actually have a lot of compassion i think i think maybe you just need to work on conveying it more so the problem is not me not having compassion the problem is just me bragging about my compassion how compassionate i am that's what i need to do so
if you want to do you want to know what she asked what the situation is and stuff yeah okay so wait wait wait so basically you you're basically interpreting
that as i just need to tell people that i'm compassionate yeah
because i already have compassion okay okay it's a whole different ball game
if you don't have compassion then you have to start learning compassion and then it's it's that's harder to change right but
if you already have compassion and all you need to do is just tell people you have compassion that's a bit easier i think it doesn't mean
that you need to tell people i think she means that you need to show people that
that you're compassionate with what they're going through let me finish elaborate on the story okay you can tell me okay this is hilarious so the example i brought up is is you know on the podcast i say sometimes my tone comes across harsh and evelyn you know she's a little bit more sensitive than i am and sometimes it upsets her and i feel bad maybe it upsets her
because we are friends and we want to make it uh this podcast as funny as as fun to listen to
as we can right so she asked me um how can you how do you want to change things so i think
that there's two answers to
that one the first answer is like well i need to have a better split between a professional and personal life so i need to tell her that just
because i'm like this on the podcast doesn't mean i think
that we're just hanging out and on the podcast i'm just bombastic loud kind of contrarian type figure right but off podcast i'm different i'm more gentle right and the second reason which is more relevant to our point is um she asked me how would you like to change it so i say okay maybe off the podcast uh i can say okay i was i know it was a bit harsh on there and uh how is that for you i hope you're okay it wasn't personal and maybe i can like also tone down the harshness a little bit you know she's that's what i said that's how i can change and then she said okay so how would you like evelyn to change and i said well to be honest she's working on a lot of her own trauma and all this shit so i i don't think it's a priority for her to change how she talks to me it's okay how do i talk to you well i also said to her
that you have very sensitive flowery language sometimes they use that really annoys me because i feel
like you're wasting my time beating around the bush so she asked me how would you like evelyn to change i'm