2023-08-06
39 分钟How well do you know the people in your life, really? Are you stuck having surface-level conversations? And should we all be in couples therapy?
Don't go to that dinner party.
I'm Angela Duckworth.
I'm Mike Mann, and you're listening to.
No stupid questions today on the show.
How do you deepen your connection with someone you care about?
He knows that I'm pulling out a trick from the supportive listening workshop.
It still works.
Angela, last week, we talked about how to connect with people that we just met.
I'd love to continue the conversation and talk about how we connect with people that we already know on a deeper level.
So not meeting people for the first time, but deepening our relationships.
Yeah, deepening relationships with people that you already have association with that, you know, on some level.
But give me your reaction to that.
And what does science tell us about how to connect deeper with people?
Well, I want to say, first of all, that talking about relationships and having better relationships is exactly what we should be talking about, at least if you care about happiness.
There's a great book.
I love this book.
I love even more the research the book is based on.
But the book is fantastic.
It's by Robert Waldinger and Mark Schultz, and it's called the good life lessons from the world's longest scientific study of happiness.
And indeed, there is a study called the Harvard study that has been tracking the same people for 84 years and counting.