16. What’s the Downside to Being Goal-Oriented?

No Stupid Questions

社会与文化

2020-08-30

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  • You know, the ages of your kids or the name of your spouse.

  • I have kids.

  • I'm Angela Duckworth.

  • I'm Stephen Dubner.

  • And you're listening to no stupid questions.

  • Today on the show.

  • Do super driven people miss out on some of life's greatest joys?

  • Are we not eating enough ice cream cones and feeling the sand between toes?

  • Ugh.

  • All those things just make me cringe a little bit, I have to say.

  • Also, what is the difference between an art and a craft?

  • With acclaimed chef and writer Gabrielle Hamilton.

  • This is a freaking delicious roast chicken.

  • So, Steven, lately I have been thinking about the dark side of grit, and in particular, how being goal directed in the extreme can be a bad thing.

  • If you are spending a large proportion of your 168 hours per week pursuing goals, you may be spending fewer hours savoring the present moment, being mindful.

  • So these strivers who are rushing around getting stuff done are maybe less happy.

  • Maybe they're just missing out, right?

  • I mean, let me ask you this.

  • In a given day, what percentage of time that you're awake do you think you are having goal directed thoughts versus the percentage of time where you have no goal in mind?

  • You're just maybe, like, eating a really good piece of brisket.