The Allure Of The Forbidden Crush

Dear Sugars

情感与人际关系

2016-02-13

47 分钟
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The Sugars look at one especially painful form of love: the crush. They take questions from two letter writers struggling with illicit love interests — one from a career-oriented woman who finds herself drawn to her boss, the other from a recently married woman fantasizing about her husband's younger brother.
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  • Dear sugar is supported by.

  • Happy Valentine's Day.

  • Thank you, Steve.

  • Sweetheart, darling, do you remember last year we called our spouses on Valentine's Day?

  • Yes, but we're not going to call our spouses this time around.

  • We're going to do something that's more in keeping with the letters that we receive, kind of what comes in from the world.

  • And Valentine's Day is defined as this day of consecrating, of love.

  • But that's not the nature of the letters that we receive.

  • In fact, the letters that we receive are, most of the time, almost all the time, much more anguished about the love interest in their life.

  • And as we thought about it, we thought, well, what is the one relationship that is the most forbidden and pervasive, almost anti Valentine's Day, in a way, and that is the relationship of a crush, because a crush is, by its definition, overwhelming desire that's smashing up against total anguish and doubt.

  • So we're gonna talk about forbidden crushes for Valentine's Day, how anti Valentine's Day is.

  • I know it's kind of a dark Valentine's Day, and I will say a shout out to listeners who are sort of shaking their heads right now and saying, that's not what a crush is.

  • It's not so dark.

  • It's not so forbidden.

  • Right.

  • And I think that when we think about what crushes are, there's definitely a continuum, a range, a variation of what we mean when we say that word.

  • I think when I think of crushes I've had, they aren't so dark.

  • They're that kind of thrill or that zing.

  • Several years ago, when I was in graduate school, living in Syracuse, New York, there was this guy who worked in the deli at the Wegmans, and it was right after Brian and I had just gotten married, and I had that feeling of like, oh, he thinks I'm cute.

  • Which then made me think he was cute.