The Truth About Honesty

关于诚实的真相

Hidden Brain

社会科学

2023-08-01

55 分钟
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Think about how often you hold back honest opinions of someone else because you don’t want to hurt their feelings. But there are times when this well-intended restraint can be a mistake. This week, in the second part of our series on failure and feedback, psychologist Taya Cohen helps us understand when — and how — to be honest.
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  • I'm Shankar Vedantam.

  • In one of the most famous episodes of the tv show Seinfeld the character Elaine, played by Julia Louis Dreyfus takes to the dance floor.

  • All right, who's dancing?

  • Come on, who's dancing?

  • What follows is hard to describe.

  • Elaine's dancing resembles a giraffe navigating an ice skating rink on roller skates.

  • Elaine's coworkers watch with mouths agape as her hands and feet fly off in different directions.

  • Here's the thing, though.

  • No one tells her she is a bad dancer.

  • Later, behind her back, her friends George and Jerry discuss Elaine's dancing.

  • Have you ever seen Elaine dance?

  • It's more like a full body, dry heave set.

  • The music.

  • Did she do the little kicks and the thumbs?

  • What?

  • You mean you know about this?

  • It was one of those problems I hope would just go away.

  • There's only one friend who is willing to tell Elaine the truth.

  • Kramer, the character in the show who often says and does things that are socially inappropriate.