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Im Shankar Vedantam all parents have moments when their kids test their patients.
Leann Young is no exception.
I often yell at my kids for things that they did by accident, like spilling a smoothie or leaving a cap off of a permanent marker and, you know, making black permanent stains all over the sofa.
When this happens and the couch is covered in black splotches or their smoothie on the floor, the perpetrators inevitably offer this defense.
It was an accident.
It's not my fault.
I didn't mean to do it.
I shouldn't say this, but I tell them, it doesn't matter that you didn't mean to do it.
What matters is that you won't do it again.
Lian's reaction, while understandable, is deeply ironic.
She's a psychologist who studies how we read other people's intentions.
We need to think about other people's minds in order to figure out who our friends are, who to avoid, whom to punish, whether to punish.
And we need to read people's intentions in any ordinary interaction, like having a conversation and figuring out what to say and how to respond.
As we go through life, we are constantly making sense of people's actions by interpreting their intentions.
Our ability to read what is happening in other people's minds is like an invisible compass guiding us through life.
But sometimes it leads us astray.
We misread other people's intentions, especially when we are hurt or angry.
This week on hidden brain, how our powers of observation allow us to navigate our social worlds until they don't.
It's the start of a series we're calling mind reading 2.0.