2024-05-13
1 小时 0 分钟People habituate to things that make their lives and the lives of people around them much less good than they should be.
And that means that things turn gray, that should be blue and red and green and orange and the celebration in the sky.
So Ferris Bueller had this great line in the movie Ferris Bueller's day off.
He said, life moves pretty fast.
If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Turns out there is this weird quirk in human nature.
Over time, we stop seeing and appreciating even the stuff that was awesome when it first happened or entered our lives.
And yes, that includes not only events and things, but also people, those people that we say that we love and are the most important to us and make our lives better.
We end up having so many things to celebrate, so many relationships to celebrate, yet we find ourselves going through the motions, failing to appreciate the magic that surrounds us.
Turns out theres a name for this phenomenon, its called habituation.
And there are things that we can do about it, things that can make our lives so much better.
Not by having to change anything or any circumstance or any relationship or rotate our stuff, but rather simply by breaking the mixed blessing spell slash curse of habituation.
My guest today, Cass Sunstein, explores this phenomenon in his fascinating new book, look again the power of noticing what was always there, co authored with neuroscience professor Tali Shirou.
In our tendency to become desensitized to unchanging parts of our lives, turns out we lose our ability to notice the beauty and meaning thats been there all along.
And as Cas explains this habituation, it helps us function without constant distraction.
Theres good to it, but it can also drain the color from our world.
In this eye opening discussion, we uncover both the power and the peril of habituation.
And Cass shares how we can cultivate what he calls dishabituation to see our lives afresh, whether that's reigniting a relationship, improving our social media habits, or snapping out of dangerous complacency.
Through vivid stories and insights from psychology, some really fascinating research, Cass shares why we slide into this not noticing state of the world around us, and how relatively simple shifts can really reopen our eyes.
It's a call to action, to appreciate what we already have and imagine bold new possibilities, and to wake us up in our own lives.