2024-02-01
1 小时 9 分钟One of the myths I want very much to eradicate from the face of the earth is the idea that if you have to talk about sex in your relationship, there must be something wrong.
The couples who sustain a strong sexual connection over the long term talk about sex all the time.
The people who self identify as having extraordinary sex lives, having magnificent sex, they talk about sex with their sex partners all the time.
Because anything that really matters to you, you talk about it with other people.
You talk about it with the people you do it with.
If you're involved in theater, you talk about the theater.
If you're involved in sports, you talk about the sport.
If you are a foodie, you talk about food.
If sex matters to you in your relationship, you talk about it.
So pleasure and intimacy with a partner are beautiful and desirable, enjoyable, and arguably even wildly important parts of life.
Yet so many of us have so much trouble acknowledging this, let alone sharing what gives us pleasure and then asking for it.
So what's going on there and what can we do about it?
Life gets in the way.
Kids, job, stress, trauma dim the flames of desire and connection and intimacy.
The exhilarating butterflies you felt at the start of the relationship, they seemed like a distant memory.
You really yearn to reclaim that intimate sexual vitality, but how?
It often feels like an impossible task.
And by the way, if you're feeling this, you are so not alone.
It's a huge issue, but nobody talks about it for all sorts of issues, from moral patterning to fear of being judged.
But what if it didn't have to be that way?