2024-01-18
54 分钟If you're right now trying to change your habits, the tripping point usually is there's a part where I'm feeling uncomfortable and just out of habit, I turn away from it.
You know, it's like a little bit of anxiety or stress that comes up and it's like, oh, I don't know if I can do this.
It's just uncertainty that's happening in that moment, and then we just habitually turn away from it.
It's an invisible moment to most of us because we're invested in not seeing it.
There's a lot of ways that.
That looks procrastination and avoidance, you know, just kind of quitting and giving up.
But others are like, complaining and being resentful.
Perfectionism is actually a turning away kind of moment as well.
Indecision and getting stuck in overthinking.
These are all ways to avoid just staying there in that moment.
So if we know that that's happening and we're like, oh, yeah, every time I get uncomfortable, I turn away.
We can actually pause there in that moment and slow down with it.
What if I could just stay with it for like 2 seconds, 5 seconds, 10 seconds?
It's a training, and we can actually develop the capacity to stay there longer.
If you just do that, that would transform everything.
So do you ever feel like you're.
Behind in your own life?
Like you're not where you thought you would be by now?
Constantly trying to catch up to some imagined expectation or standard of where you should be, and then piling on shame and overwhelm along the way?
So oddly, so often, even the most outwardly accomplished and successful people fall into this trap, one that's both of our own making and also the fallout of a culture that tells you to measure your life by things that are more or less destined to make you feel bad no matter how good they are or could be if you just got out of your own head?