2023-11-06
54 分钟It's the moments that we are not confident, but we find a way to do it anyway that hold the greatest opportunity for growth, for connection, and for impact.
So rather than having a conversation around confidence, I think the more valuable conversation is what are those deeper skills, the meta skills that we really want and need to cultivate?
The ones that allow us to act even when we're not sure how things are going to end, even when we're not very confident, either in ourselves or in the idea or in the possibility of what is spinning around in our head?
What are the core skills that we can cultivate that will allow us to continue to assess the moment, and then to potentially make decisions and take actions that would move us forward even when we are not fully confident and we don't know how it's going to end?
I've got a question for you.
How long have you been waiting to feel confident enough to do the things you dream of doing?
Maybe to go for that new project or job, or approach someone you're interested in dating?
Or maybe start a new side hustle or business, or start a podcast, write a book, make art?
Whatever it is, we keep telling ourselves, oh, I'm not confident enough to do that yet.
But what if that was all an illusion?
What if confidence was actually more fake than real, and waiting for it to magically arrive was stopping us from living a truly amazing life?
So, sure, we hear a lot of talk about how to become more confident in relationships, at work, in the pursuit of big visions, goals, or dreams.
But what if that confidence was really the wrong thing to be pursuing?
What if, in fact, that magical state of confidence even arrived, and it was actually not the asset or ally we thought it would be, but was rather a sign of an unwillingness to grow, to take meaningful risks that could lead to a better life, better relationships, better work experiences, and more?
What if, in fact, it was the very willingness to live, to make decisions, to take actions when you not only were not confident, but literally could not be confident given the circumstances?
That was the real power move in life?
What if cultivating the skill of unconfident action was the unlucky for so much, and chasing confidence was really just this distraction that kept you from doing all the amazing things you dreamed of doing and creating, and making all the awesomeness you'd love to bring into your life, and even becoming who you deeply yearn to become?
Well, that's what we're talking about in today's special solo episode, how to stop waiting for the magical and elusive confidence to kick in and just learn to take decisive action that leads to powerful, even life changing outcomes, even when you don't know how it's going to work out.
So excited to share this deep dive on confidence with you today.
I'm Jonathan Fields and this is good life project.