2023-02-02
1 小时 5 分钟For the first time in my life, I realized that it was me who is in charge of my life.
I'd done what everybody else wanted.
And so over the course of the next several months, I started to put some boundaries in my life.
Gradually, bit by bit, day by day, I started being more honest about who I am as a person, because that was the fundamental problem with me.
I swallowed all my feelings.
I hidden all of my trauma.
I just became whatever anybody wanted me to be, and I couldn't do it anymore.
My life was saying to me, you cannot pretend that you don't have feelings.
You can't pretend to be something that you're not.
The only choice that you have is to be you.
And from that moment forward, it felt like everything began to shift.
I mean, life changed so radically for me over less than a year.
It was unbelievable.
So how might your life be different.
If you had gotten comfortable saying no in your earliest days?
No to other people's opinions about everything from, oh, education to careers to relationships?
No to someone else telling you what to prioritize and how to spend your time?
No to people you've never met offering their opinion of what you should or shouldn't do, and then telling you how they think that choice worked out for you.
How would your life be different if you'd gotten okay choosing for you, and not just for acceptance or belonging or obligation?
How might you reclaim if you started getting clear on when and what to say yes or no to from this moment on and rid yourself of the need to please?