2022-10-20
1 小时 13 分钟Friendship in adulthood is not like friendship in childhood.
You cannot rely on the same set of assumptions.
Friendship and adulthood does not happen organically.
I'm going to repeat that.
It does not happen organically.
You have to try.
Right?
And I think people are so afraid of rejection.
But the reality is people are less likely to reject you than you think.
Like, we have this whole culture of lonely people looking for connection, you know?
And I think sometimes we assume everybody has their friends when, you know, the data is telling us, no, they do not.
Okay, so here's the deal.
Friends matter more than you even know.
A lack of genuine, open, loving friends, it can lead to profound loneliness.
And that very loneliness can be devastating to both your mental health.
But also, it goes further than that.
The health effects on your physical body, your physiology, can wreak more havoc and increase the risk of illness and dementia and even death on a level that dramatically exceeds things like addiction, obesity, pollution, sometimes combined.
So what's the solution?
Well, we tend to look for our one person to solve the loneliness problem, our most intimate or romantic relationship, and that dream partner, you know, who makes everything okay.
Except, as we'll learn today, that can and often is a bit of a recipe for disaster.