2022-10-10
1 小时 1 分钟We have to take the impacts of our actions seriously.
We have to assume that other people are as worthy of care and concern as we are.
And when we mess up, it is an opportunity for us to learn and grow.
And if part of me doesn't want to hear someone saying, ouch, what you're saying is hurting me as a human being, then I might need to look at why that is.
Like, what is going on with me that I am shutting down, someone saying, I'm in pain and you don't want to see it.
Okay, so we all mess up, sometimes in small ways, but other times in big ones, sometimes privately, other times publicly.
We don't mean to, or maybe we do in the moment, but feel remorse after the fact.
And either way, we all will at some point hurt someone.
And we may also suffer repercussions, whether personal, communal, or societal.
The question is, what do we do after that?
How do we repair the harm and make amends?
How do we find a way back to grace and connection, community, redemption and repair?
Is that even possible in all cases?
And if so, what are the steps?
And what about forgiveness?
Does that and should it be a part of the process?
Well, it turns out there's a well defined set of steps, a path very few know about.
And that is where we're headed in today's conversation with Rabbi Donia Ruttenberg, named by Newsweek as a rabbi to watch and a wonderkin of jewish feminism by Publishers Weekly, Rabbi Donya Ruttenberg is an award winning author of several books and a writer whose work has appeared in the New York Times, Washington Post, the Atlantic, and so many others.
She serves as a scholar in residence at the National Council of Jewish Women and as a rabbi and educator at Tufts and Northwestern universities Hillel International, the Dialogue Project, ask big questions, and Avodah, an organization dedicated to creating leaders for economic justice.
And today we explore a practical, though not always easy, five step path to repair reconciliation and redemption, based on ancient universal wisdom that she details in her newest book on repentance and repair making amends in an unapologetic world.