2022-01-31
1 小时 6 分钟What I discovered, to my surprise, is that regret points the way to the good life.
That regret teaches us about the good life in ways that almost no other topic does.
I think that's at the heart of why people are leaning in.
If you look at people's regrets, the guts of people's regrets, and synthesize them, analyze them, they tell you what makes life worth living.
So we've all been told, try to live a life without regrets.
But what if regret was actually a good thing?
That is a highly provocative question that today's guests dare pink asks, and then answers with a whole bunch of researched and validated ways that regret can actually be an incredibly valuable experience and even a power tool for a life well lived.
In fact, a life entirely without regret, he argues, might even do more harm than good.
I've known Dan for well over a decade now.
He's been on the show a number.
Of times over the years.
A former White House speech writer, he left that world and shifted focus to writing books that really opened our eyes to the human condition and plant seeds to do life better.
These include New York Times bestsellers, a whole new drive to sell as human, and when his books have sold millions of copies, been translated into 42 languages, and won many, many awards.
And in Dan's new book, the power of Regret, he takes on this topic we've all grappled with and gives it this surprising reframe.
He draws on research in psychology and neuroscience, economics and biology to challenge widely held assumptions about emotions and behavior.
And using the largest sampling of american attitudes about regret ever conducted, as well as his own world regret survey, which, by the way, has collected regrets from more than 16,000 people in 105 countries, some of which he shares during our conversation, he identifies these four core regrets.
That most people have.
And these four regrets, Dan argues, operated as a, a kind of a photographic negative of the good life.
And in it and through our conversation today, we find out how regret, our most misunderstood emotion, can be the pathway to our best life.
So excited to share this conversation with you.