Dear Life Kit: Your most petty social dilemmas, answered

亲爱的生活套件:您最琐碎的社交困境已得到解答

Life Kit

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2024-08-12

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Lunch snubs, bad neighbors and needy in-laws. Advice columnist R. Eric Thomas responds to the bad behavior getting under your skin. Learn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoices NPR Privacy Policy

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  • You're listening to life kit from NPR.

  • Hey, everybody, it's Marielle.

  • There are things that happen in everyday life that can just get under your skin, right?

  • Like you're driving and all of a sudden somebody lays on the horn and then speeds past you, giving you the finger.

  • You really don't think you did anything to deserve that.

  • Or somebody makes an underhanded, passive aggressive comment towards you.

  • These moments might feel small or petty, but they stick with us.

  • The things that we see as petty.

  • They can hit us in the heart in a way that feels very real.

  • That's writer R.

  • Eric Thomas.

  • He wears a lot of hats, among them novelist, culture critic, former slate advisor, vice columnist and longtime host of the moth in Philadelphia.

  • Now it's easy to internalize these moments and just stew about them for days or weeks.

  • And he gets that.

  • I am a grudge tender, but I've learned through years of therapy, if you can confidently say to someone else, hey, I actually have this thought or this problem and not feel petty or embarrassed about it, then maybe it's something you need to say.

  • Otherwise, it's sort of like, maybe I just need to let it go.