2025-02-13
23 分钟This episode was supported by the John Templeton Foundation initiative spreading love through the media So we met on Tinder America's favorite hookup app at the time and it was the summer of 2015 Yep,
and I have been ghosted
that summer before so I was literally just like I let me swipe away and just see who's Available to like hang out.
Yeah, I was looking for a rebound.
What were you looking for?
I think I was looking for someone who had similar values of mine So I told him I said I'm going to the dog beach with my dog
if you want to come and He came to the dog beach and we talked on that beach for like what maybe like four or five hours or something Yeah But then he did the thing where he's like Hey,
like just so you know,
I'm gonna be out of town for a couple weeks or so And I won't be near a phone and I know this is code for like,
oh,
this is where this ends You're gonna ghost me and then was like no I'm gonna be with my family and the mountains in this cabin where you won't be able to reach me But I'll write to you so I was
like you'll write to me sure and then one day I go to my mailbox and he had written letters to me and he'd even like picked a flower from the mountain that you were Staying on and those were like folded into the letters.
So I was like,
oh this guy is different The letters have stopped the romance has stopped I wrote you a letter fairly recently We're I wrote you a mother's day card and mother's day letter.
Do you know what today is Mother's Day was May of last year Yeah, that's right.
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