2025-02-27
21 分钟This episode was supported by a grant from the John Templeton Foundation on spreading love through the media.
So, in my young 20s, I was not focused on friendship.
I was focused on romantic love, and it was not going well.
I remember going through a breakup, and I felt so bad,
so I asked my friend Heather, Heather, how about we create this wellness group?
We'll meet up and practice wellness.
We will meditate, cook, do yoga, and it was really to heal from that romantic breakup.
Heather said yes, and me and a group of friends would meet every week to practice wellness.
And I looked around and I asked myself, like, why doesn't this form of love matter to me?
Why have I been so focused on romantic love, feeling like I have no love in my life unless it's romantic?
Like, I'm not worthy unless I have a romantic partner.
Like, why doesn't this love count?
I felt like the ways that I was seeing friendship as trivial and less than reflected a larger culture that devalued this form of connection.
And because I felt so loved by my friends through that group, it felt like something's wrong about this.
We're really missing something.
Friendship shape our lives in ways we don't always realize.
They play a huge role in both our happiness and physical health.
So why do we sometimes take them for granted?
And what can we do to make them stronger?
I'm Dacher Keltner, and this is the Science of Happiness.